Let's talk for a minute, Haeley-to-Haeley. Cool?
I promise I'm not mad at you, so don't freak out. I just need to remind you of a few things.
I need you to take a step back and appreciate your life for the crazy, wonderful, mess that it is right now. I need you to remember that these days won't last forever, and you'll eventually look back on them with incredible fondness.
No, you're not dying, divorcing, or anything traumatic. It's just...
You're not pregnant.
And that's okay. The two of you aren't trying to have a baby yet, anyway. Still, your baby hunger is real, and boy is it persistent. Each month is a mixture of emotions for you as you simultaneously hope your period doesn't show up, while at the same time worrying that it won't. It's a strange state of being, isn't it? What would it be like to wake up one morning and not be doubled over with cramps? What would it be like to be a few days late and secretly hope that your period just wasn't going to come? What would it be like to watch those two pink lines show up on a pregnancy test, confirming what you were hoping and praying for?
I'll tell you what it would be like- or, at least, what I imagine what it would be like. It would be amazing. It would be the biggest rush of emotions, knowing that there was a life growing inside of you, and that in a few months, you and your husband would be parents. It would be so exciting, while at the same time being scary and daunting.
I have no doubt that it would be worth it, either. Having a baby to love and care for is the dream, after all!
But it's not the dream right now. And what you need to understand, sweet girl, is that it's okay! Please remember that although you may feel older than you are, you're still only 19. You are still in your teens, Haeley! You're still a baby! Having a baby will be wonderful, and beautiful, and scary, and the most wonderful thing is you are still so young. You can wait a few years, I promise. You're okay. Your biological clock isn't ticking quite yet. ;^)
For now, I want you to enjoy this part of life. You only get to be a newlywed once, you know. So take advantage of it! Go dancing with your husband, and feel free to forget what song is playing because you're too busy kissing him to pay attention. Enjoy how excited you get when you come home from work and he's there, waiting for you and only you. Cuddle up to him each night and hold him as close to you as possible, because this time is limited. You have the rest of your life to be a mom, but you only have right now to have it be just the two of you.
So go ahead, live your life to the very fullest. Feel free to be as passionate as you want to, in whatever you're doing. The two of you are so, so young, so go out and LIVE while you can! Take a random trip to a city you've never heard of. Stay up all night watching movies without worrying about waking up the baby. Go on dates as often as you want to without worrying about a babysitter. Make sure your siblings are annoyed by your constant cuddling and general lovey-dovey talk.
Haeley, you've wanted a relationship like this since you were 12. Do you know how lucky you are? Start appreciating the lovely little family you have right now, and know that in the Lord's time your children will come to you. But don't worry about it right at this moment, please. Enjoy being a newlywed while you can, and love that sweet husband of yours with every last ounce of yourself.
Because someday, you'll wake up in the middle of the night, because the little creature the two of you created needs you. And someday you will have to find a babysitter in order to spend a little alone time with the boy who still gives you butterflies when he holds your hand.
Someday, you will be utterly drained and exhausted, but more full of love than you ever thought. Someday, you will have a beautiful little child running through the sprinklers, giggling and squealing, and you will marvel at just how you lived without them. And throughout the years, you will watch that child grow up into their own person, and eventually they will find their own spouse, and you'll remember this time again, when it was just your husband and you, and you'll hope your children are even half as happy as you are.
These years are coming, Haeley. They are. And they will be the best years of your life, but those years have already begun. Look into Tanner's eyes and know that all you need is in front of you. He is so wonderful to you. sweetheart. You couldn't have done better.